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Oct 30, 2026 · Theme of the week: Comfort

Feeling Friday - Edition 43

Path to Becoming
Feeling Friday
Theme of the week: Comfort
On Monday, I shared how protecting my peace during cancer treatment meant making changes that some people disagreed with. I felt the urge to apologize and retract my needs just to make the discomfort go away.
Standing by those choices was difficult. But it helped me find comfort in choosing myself, even when I didn’t have everyone else's approval.
Sometimes, saying yes brings immediate relief. The awkward conversation is avoided. Nobody seems disappointed. But later, we may find ourselves frustrated or exhausted because we agreed to something we didn’t have the capacity for.
This week’s practice is about noticing that trade-off and choosing one small way to put yourself first.
Mindset Activity: The Comfort Trade-Off
Take a few minutes to think about situations where you regularly put your needs aside just to keep someone else happy. It may be as simple as agreeing to plans when you need rest or making yourself constantly available to answer messages and calls.
1. What am I saying yes to, and what is it costing me?
Write down what you usually do and how it affects you afterward:
Ex. I answer work messages throughout the evening because I don’t want to seem unhelpful. But I never feel fully present or well-rested at home.
Consider what matters to you in that situation. Perhaps you need uninterrupted time with your loved ones or a chance to switch off.
2. What would a reasonable boundary look like?
Choose a clear action that honours that need while considering your responsibilities and the impact on others. A boundary describes what you will do, change, or are willing to offer:
Ex. I’ll clarify when I’m expected to be available and, outside those hours, leave non-urgent messages until the next workday.
You might communicate it by saying:
“I’m switching off for the evening, but I’ll get back to you tomorrow.”
3. What discomfort am I willing to sit with?
Name the feeling you expect and what respecting this boundary could make possible over time:
Ex. I might feel guilty or worry that I’m disappointing someone. Giving myself this time could help me rest and be more present with the people I love.
Feeling uncomfortable usually does not mean you have done something wrong. You can notice the feeling, consider whether your choice is fair, and give yourself time before rushing to undo it.
This weekend, practice setting one small boundary.
Afterward, ask yourself: Did I communicate respectfully? What actually happened? How did I feel later?
You may discover that the reaction you feared never came. Or someone may be disappointed, and you may still feel that your choice was reasonable. If something needs adjusting, you can make that adjustment thoughtfully.
For me, learning to honour my needs meant accepting some immediate discomfort in exchange for a deeper sense of peace within myself.
That is the kind of comfort I hope we can all keep building.
Stay strong, even when you are not. It’s okay, you are not alone.
Love always,
Michael Argyrides
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